We help you transform pain into progress, guiding recovery and renewal from pornography use and infidelity.
Treatment for cheating, infidelity, Pornography & Sex Addiction
Hey there, Navigating the complexities of a relationship where pornography addiction or infidelity has come into play can be incredibly challenging for both partners. It’s a journey that both the husband and wife often find themselves on, sometimes feeling lost and unsure. But here’s a reassuring thought: you’re not alone on this path, and there’s a supportive, understanding community ready to help you both find your way back to a place of trust, healing, and deeper connection.
If you’re struggling with behaviors like pornography use or infidelity, it’s important to know that acknowledging this is a brave first step. It’s not just about willpower; it’s about understanding the deeper reasons behind these behaviors and learning new ways to cope and heal.
Facing the hurt and betrayal that comes with these issues can be overwhelming. Your feelings of pain, confusion, and betrayal are valid and important. Healing begins with acknowledging these emotions and understanding that your journey is equally crucial in the recovery process.
Understanding the Why
For both of you, understanding the root causes of these behaviors and the impact they have on your relationship is key. There’s often more beneath the surface – past experiences, unresolved issues, or unmet needs that play a significant role. Shining a light on these can start the process of healing and change.
The Process
Secure Intimacy offers recovery from cheating, infidelity, pornography use or any other form of unwanted sexual behavior. We provide help in three phases.
Phase 1 of the recovery process, which can be pivotal in addressing unwanted sexual behaviors or issues stemming from infidelity, often includes a key component known as a weekend intensive. This intensive experience is designed to kickstart the healing and understanding process in a focused, immersive environment. Here’s a closer look at what this entails:
Phase 1 Weekend Intensive: A Deep Dive into Recovery
Focused Sessions
Over the course of a weekend, you’ll engage in intensive group therapy sessions. This condensed time frame allows for deep, uninterrupted work that can often jumpstart the healing process.
Educational Workshops
The program typically includes workshops and seminars that provide education on the nature of addiction, its effects on the brain and relationships, and strategies for managing it.
Self-Exploration
There's an emphasis on self-reflection and understanding personal histories and behaviors. This is crucial for laying the groundwork for long-term change.
Building a Supportive Community
Group Sessions
Group therapy allows for shared experiences and the building of a supportive community. These sessions can be incredibly validating and help reduce feelings of isolation.
Connection with Peers
The intensive setting allows for bonding with others who are going through similar challenges, fostering a sense of camaraderie and mutual support.
Skill Development
You’ll learn initial coping strategies to manage urges and triggers. These skills are essential for maintaining progress after the intensive.
Relapse Prevention Planning
Understanding and planning for potential setbacks is a part of this phase, helping to build resilience for the journey ahead.
The Goal of the Weekend Intensive
The primary aim of this initial intensive phase is to provide a concentrated burst of therapy and learning. It’s designed to bring issues into the open, start the process of understanding and communication, and equip participants with the initial tools they need for recovery. This foundation is crucial for the more detailed and personalized work that follows in the subsequent phase of the treatment plan. Engaging in a weekend intensive can be a powerful and transformative experience, providing both immediate insights and tools, as well as laying the groundwork for the continued journey of healing and growth.
Secure Intimacy 12 Week Program
12 Week Group Women's Group:
12-week transformational program for betrayed partners is designed to:
- Alleviate your trauma symptoms, paving the way for healing.
- Empower you to reclaim your personal strength and autonomy.
- Transition you away from the overwhelming effects of betrayal.
- Assist in building the life and relationships you've always desired.
Week 1:
- Transform feelings of powerlessness into a newfound strength, empowering you to shape your responses and future with warmth and hope.
Week 2:
- Gently peel back the layers to understand the deep-rooted issues in your relational trauma, nurturing a path to healing.
Week 3:
- Compassionately learn about your trauma responses and adopt coping strategies that comfort and support you.
Week 4:
- Lovingly step away from the confusion of gaslighting, gaining clarity and rekindling trust in yourself and others.
Week 5:
- Grow in your ability to stay grounded in reality, making healthy, heart-centered decisions for your well-being.
Week 6:
- Explore with kindness how sexual betrayal has touched your personal and shared sexuality, fostering understanding and healing.
Week 7:
- Tenderly heal from sexual wounds and craft a healthy, affirmative sexual plan for yourself and your relationship.
Week 8:
- Embrace your true source of power with love, learning to express yourself in ways that resonate with your heart.
Week 9:
- Deepen your relational connections, setting boundaries with care and respect for yourself and others.
Week 10:
- Delve into the science of love and attachment with a warm heart, aiming to create a safe, lasting bond in relationships.
Week 11:
- Enhance your self-awareness, confidence, and acceptance with a gentle touch, freeing yourself to experience the joyful adventure of intimacy.
Week 12:
- Envision the life you desire post-betrayal with hope and love, creating nurturing rituals, habits, and a supportive community
This program is an excellent match for you if:
- You're grappling with the impact of sexual betrayal, stemming from sexual addiction or infidelity, and are seeking a clear and effective way to move beyond the trauma and reclaim control over your life.
- You're determined and eager to proactively support your own healing.
- You discard the notion that betrayal has permanently cast you as a victim.
- You understand that your partner cannot be the sole source of your healing, despite being the cause of your pain.
- You're receptive to embracing new perspectives and approaches, and willing to take risks in your journey of healing.
- You're prepared to accept personal responsibility for your own healing and happiness.
- You firmly believe in the possibility of healing and leading a rich, fulfilling life even after experiencing betrayal.
This program may not be the right fit if:
- You've just learned about the betrayal and feel too overwhelmed to process new information, a common response to trauma.
- You haven't started any form of therapy or healing process for the betrayal yet. Those already engaged in healing will benefit more from this program.
- You're not ready to commit substantial time, effort, and financial resources. This intensive program requires a serious commitment of time and energy.
12 Week Men's Group:
12-week transformational program for men is tailored to:
- Help you understand and address the impacts of your actions, setting the foundation for healing.
- Empower you to take responsibility for your actions and rebuild your integrity.
- Guide you away from the patterns that led to betrayal, towards healthier behaviors.
- Support you in repairing and rebuilding the trust and strength in your relationships.
- Assist you in creating the life and relationships you've always desired.
Week 1:
- Begin with a compassionate understanding of how to recognize and address issues related to sexual behavior, setting a foundation for healing and growth.
Week 2:
- Delve deeper to uncover the root causes of these behaviors, exploring them with kindness and curiosity to understand their origins.
Week 3:
- Identify and gently challenge the distorted thought patterns and beliefs that hinder healing, reconnecting with your true self in a nurturing way.
Week 4:
- Learn to identify triggers with empathy, understanding the emotions and situations that lead to challenging behaviors.
Week 5:
- Thoughtfully map out the pattern or cycle of compulsive sexual behaviors. Learn strategies for timely intervention, empowering yourself to step out of these cycles with care.
Week 6:
- Define what sexual sobriety means to you personally, and create an effective, compassionate relapse prevention plan tailored to your journey.
Week 7:
- Explore the changes in brain chemistry that drive craving, withdrawal, and relapse, gaining insights on how to lovingly intervene and support your brain's health.
Week 8:
- Explore your arousal template to gain a deeper, empathetic understanding of the significance of your sexual behaviors in relation to your emotional needs and attachment styles.
Week 9:
- Learn stress-reduction strategies in a supportive environment, focusing on methods that bring peace and balance to your life.
Week 10:
- Cultivate healthy relationships and sexuality, focusing on building connections that are nurturing, respectful, and fulfilling.
Week 11:
- Learn how to support and heal with your partner from betrayal, approaching this sensitive journey with kindness, patience, and understanding.
Week 12:
- Learn how to create and use supportive relationships to build a community that nurtures and sustains your recovery, fostering a network of warmth and solidarity.
This program is an excellent match for you if:
- You're facing challenges with pornography use, infidelity, or other sexual behaviors that you want to change.
- You're eager to uncover and understand the deeper issues behind these unwanted behaviors.
- You're looking for clear guidance and support to achieve and maintain sexual sobriety.
- You've been trying to handle this alone and now realize the value of connecting with others who share your experiences.
- You're seeking assistance in repairing the impact of your actions on your relationships with your partner, family, or others.
- You're working through repeated setbacks and are ready to build a strong, hopeful foundation for your recovery.
This program may not be the right fit if:
- Your participation in the group is solely to satisfy your spouse or others, and you lack a personal commitment to your healing.
- You cannot dedicate a minimum of two hours weekly outside of group sessions for homework and reading
Secure Intimacy 12 Week Program:
Week 1:
- Participate in a focused weekend of intensive therapy sessions, including educational workshops and group activities.
- Regularly attend individual therapy sessions for personal exploration and addressing underlying issues and emotions.
- Actively participate in group therapy sessions, both in men’s or women’s groups, for peer support and shared learning. Implement and practice coping strategies learned during therapy to manage urges and triggers related to unwanted sexual behaviors.
- Utilize improved communication skills, particularly in the context of a relationship, to effectively express needs, feelings, and concerns.
- Make and maintain lifestyle adjustments to support recovery, including establishing healthier routines and self-care practices.
- Work on creating and adhering to a relapse prevention plan, building resilience for long-term recovery.
- Actively apply learned skills and insights from therapy in everyday life situations. Continue involvement in support groups for sustained encouragement, accountability, and community connection.
- Stay open to ongoing assessments and adjustments in therapy approaches to ensure consistent progress. Focus on personal growth through introspection and therapeutic guidance, addressing past trauma and emotional challenges.
- Work on healing and improving family dynamics affected by the individual’s behavior.
What You Will Achieve:
- Develop a deeper understanding of your own behavior patterns and underlying causes.
- Gain valuable insights from shared experiences and perspectives of others in similar situations.
- Build a supportive network of peers who provide empathy, understanding, and encouragement.
- Learn effective coping strategies to manage triggers and prevent relapse.
- Enhance communication skills, aiding in better expression and understanding within relationships.
- Foster a sense of belonging and community, reducing feelings of isolation and shame.
- Strengthen resilience and emotional intelligence through group interactions and feedback.
- Receive motivation and accountability from peers, facilitating sustained commitment to recovery.
- Experience diverse viewpoints and strategies, enriching your own journey of healing and growth.
- Grow in self-compassion and understanding, as you observe and participate in the healing process of others.
- Build confidence in your ability to navigate challenges and make healthier choices.
- Cultivate a more balanced and fulfilling life, free from the constraints of past behaviors.
In Phase 2 of the recovery process, group therapy plays a crucial role, offering a supportive and dynamic environment for deeper healing and understanding. These groups, segmented for both men and women, provide a unique space for individuals to share their experiences, challenges, and triumphs with peers who understand and empathize with their journey. In these sessions, participants engage in shared learning, exploring deeper-seated patterns and developing strategies for long-term change. This group setting fosters a sense of community and belonging, which is vital for sustaining motivation and progress in recovery.
The group work in this phase isn’t just about sharing and support; it also focuses on practical applications. Participants learn from each other’s experiences, gaining different perspectives and coping strategies that can be instrumental in managing triggers and preventing relapse. This collaborative environment encourages open and honest communication, which is essential for personal growth and healing.
Alongside group therapy, Phase 2 also integrates individual and couples counseling as complementary components. This allows for a more personalized approach to address specific issues and dynamics that might not be fully explored in a group setting. Individual counseling offers a private space for deeper introspection and personal growth, while couples counseling provides a platform for partners to work through their challenges together, rebuild trust, and strengthen their relationship.
The combination of group work with individual and couples counseling ensures a holistic approach to recovery. It recognizes the importance of personal growth, mutual support, and relationship healing as interconnected elements of the healing journey. This comprehensive approach is designed to guide participants towards lasting change, resilience, and a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Providing in-person and online group therapy in Spokane, WA and throughout the State of Washington