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White Flag, 104 S Freya St Suite 320, Spokane, WA 99202 | (509) 761-9961

Transform your life with our compassionate and skilled counselors

Counselors for Couples, Adults, Teens & Kids in Spokane, WA

About Us

Compassionate care for the whole family

At Secure Intimacy Marriage and Family Therapy, we invite you to connect with our compassionate team of therapists, each bringing a unique blend of warmth, understanding, and expertise. Whether you’re a couple seeking to deepen your connection, an individual pursuing personal growth and self-compassion, a child in need of a nurturing touch, or a teen navigating the complexities of adolescence, our therapists are here to support you. We understand the importance of finding the right therapeutic match for your needs and invite you to explore the diverse backgrounds and specialties of our caring professionals. In our welcoming environment, we are committed to guiding you on your journey towards healing, growth, and deeper self-understanding.

Why Choose Us

Caring for you like a family

Communication

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Health-Centered

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Meet your counselor

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Andrea Hainsworth, MA, LMHC

Owner & Clinical Director

$185/session

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Andrea Hainsworth, MA, LMHC

Owner & Clinical Director

$185/session

From the outside you look like the couple who has it all. Together you’ve achieved some great things but behind closed doors things are falling apart. You don’t feel like the partners you long to be, the sex isn’t always great, the kids, work and finances are a lot of pressure. You wonder when you started to grow apart and when you try and talk about it you end up having the same fight over and over again. Things may have even reached a breaking point if you’ve discovered cheating or another breach of trust such as undisclosed pornography use or other forms of betrayal and dishonesty. 

Using Emotionally Focused therapy, I help couples create the relationship they dream of, one where you can truly be yourself and be heard and understood. Whether you want to strengthen an already good marriage or relationship or heal one that has open wounds or ruptures I am passionate about helping you. Whether it’s individual counseling, couples counseling or some therapeutic group work I have the skills to help you heal and create the life you dream of. 

I strive to create a warm and welcoming environment so that we can create the safety necessary to strengthen or heal a relationship. Once you learn to see and hear each other differently you will be able to have these conversations in your day today life. I am the founder and clinical director of Secure Intimacy Marriage & Family Counseling. I graduated with a masters degree in Marriage & Family Counseling from Gonzaga University. I have advanced training (Core Skills) in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the gold standard of couples therapy. I also have training and years of experience working with couples who have experienced relational wounds from infidelity and/or unwanted pornography use. I founded and created Secure Intimacy with the vision of having a place in Spokane where the whole family can receive compassionate care. I am a board member for the Eastern Washington Northern Idaho EFT community (EWNIEFT). I also offer my speaking and presenting skills to churches and other groups throughout Spokane. I am a great fit for: individuals who want to take their life to the next level couples who want to strengthen their relationship or heal from ruptures in the relationship. My current focus is facilitating groups for men who want to overcome unwanted pornography use, infidelity or other forms of compulsive sexual behavior. Facilitating groups for women who have experienced intimate betrayal and betrayal trauma.

Emily Seppi, MA, LMFT

Clinical Supervisor

$185/session

You may feel overwhelmed by anxiety and depression, often feeling unseen and misunderstood by those you love. You’ve faced significant challenges in life and now seek to heal from these painful experiences and build resilience. If you’re struggling in your relationships, haunted by your past, and unsure how to process these experiences to improve your life, know that you’re not alone and that transformation is possible. Your journey towards a more empowered and fulfilling future is important, and I’m here to support you every step of the way.

My clients build a sense of calm and peace; make sense of their emotions; and work to process past trauma in order to live wholeheartedly on their own terms.  From our very first session, we will work together to create meaningful therapy goals specific to what you want out of your sessions with me. You deserve to get measurably better! The more healing that needs to be done, the longer therapy takes, but my goal is always to “work myself out of a job” because you have achieved what we set out to accomplish.

I have been a therapist for over 10 years.  I specialize in Brainspotting (a powerful, focused, body-based treatment method similar to EMDR) and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), the gold standard for couples therapy. I provide affirmative therapy to LGBTQIA+ couples.  As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I can work with individuals or relationships, but I will always think of you (and the problems we work on together) in the larger context of your relationships, your past, and the systems you live within. I want to support your healing in a way that is affirmative and meaningful to YOU!

I am a good fit for individuals grappling with anxiety, depression, or relationship struggles, and those seeking to heal from past traumas and build a more fulfilling future. My expertise in Brainspotting and Emotionally-Focused Therapy, coupled with my affirmative approach to LGBTQIA+ couples, positions me well to support a diverse range of clients on their journey towards healing and resilience.

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Emily Seppi, MA, LMFT

Clinical Supervisor

$185/session

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Rebecca Vanderlouw, MSW, LSWAIC

Counselor

$150/session

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“Enter into children’s play, and you will find the place where their minds, hearts, and souls meet.”

— Virginia Axline

Rebecca Vanderlouw, MSW, LSWAIC

Counselor

$150/session

You’re a parent deeply concerned about your child or teen. It’s tough to see them struggling, and you understand that these challenges are part of life, not a sign of failure. You might be dealing with your own anxiety, feeling the weight of depression, or coping with personal trauma. Perhaps you’re navigating difficulties in relationships, addiction, or parenting itself. Your worries are valid, and your desire to help both your child and yourself through these times speaks volumes of your love and commitment. You’re seeking understanding and support to navigate these complex emotions and situations.

I am committed to helping your child or teen or you through your current challenges. In our therapy sessions, I will engage with you using a holistic and client-centered approach. I believe that the solutions you need are within your grasp, and my role is to facilitate their discovery. Together, we will create a safe and affirming environment where growth and healing can flourish. By establishing a welcoming and comfortable space, I emphasize the importance of our therapeutic relationship. My primary goal as a therapist is to empower my clients to find and trust their true selves, guiding you towards effective solutions and fostering resilience in facing life’s challenges.

I hold a Masters Degree in Social Work from Boise State University. My six years as an Elementary School Counselor in the public school system fostered a deep love for working with children. Engaging with young minds in this vibrant and dynamic environment, I witnessed the resilience, creativity, and unique perspectives of children every day. This experience not only enriched my professional skills but also ignited a profound passion for supporting and nurturing the emotional and psychological well-being of children, shaping my approach and dedication in my career.  In my transition to community mental health, I learned the complexity and diversity of mental health challenges, gaining invaluable insights into managing conditions like depression, anxiety, trauma, and psychotic disorders. This experience deepened my understanding of therapeutic approaches, enhancing my ability to provide compassionate and effective care to individuals from various backgrounds and with differing needs.

I am a good fit for a diverse range of clients, including adults, teens, and children as young as four years old. My experience extends to working effectively with LGBTQ individuals and families, understanding their unique challenges and perspectives. With a skill set tailored to meet the needs of each age group and community, I help my clients navigate their individual challenges and support their personal growth. My approach is inclusive and empathetic, aiming to create a safe space for all clients to heal and thrive.

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Becky Ammeriman, MA, LMHCA

Counselor

$150/session

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Becky Ammerman, MA, LMHCA

Counselor

$150/session

When difficult and unexpected things happen in our lives, our senses of self and stability can be shaken. If you are experiencing this, I can help you find your way back to joy and to connection with yourself and others.

I work with individuals and couples facing a variety of stressors including grief, relationship distress, perinatal and postpartum difficulties, life transitions (empty nest, receiving a difficult diagnosis, divorce, etc.), parenting concerns, traumatic events, and aging.

As an experienced couples’ counselor trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I am equipped to help you resolve conflict, improve communication skills, heal emotional wounds, and create a more secure connection with your partner.

I hold a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Counseling from Gonzaga University. What brought me to the counseling field is a deep caring for the lives and experiences of others, and the belief that we all have the capacity for healing and for positive change.

Whatever you are struggling with or hoping to achieve, I look forward to hearing your story and will work alongside you with empathy, humor, and lack of judgment. Reach out today for a free 15-minute phone consultation and we will start working toward healing.

 
 

 

Teresa Eggleston, MA, LMFTA

Counselor

$150/session

Are you wanting to reclaim your authentic self? You want to be more in control of your anger and emotions, not be taken for a ride again and again. You “know better” yet are frustrated that you keep doing the same thing. Or maybe you’re in a relationship that’s disconnected and you want to revive the love and intimacy? These can be challenging issues to face alone. Unfortunately, many people learn to tune-out or dissociate in these situations, which can cause more difficulty and lead to feeling stuck or hopeless. I focus on integrative practices that address your mind, body, spirit and emotions – it’s not all in your head.

Together, we will explore ways to honor your experiences, rebuild trust in yourself, enhance self-expression and boundaries, and foster personal growth. Through somatic techniques and evidence-based therapies, you’ll be guided to reconnect with your body’s wisdom, embrace self-compassion, and empower yourself to live a life aligned with your values.
Imagine feeling grounded, confident, and in touch with your inner strength and intuition. Envision a relationship where you each experience deep connection, mutual respect, and shared joy. It’s possible, and I am here to guide and support you every step of the way. 

With a Masters of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy from Whitworth University, I have gained a deep understanding of the complexities in family dynamics and relationship issues. My training in Emotionally-Focused Therapy under Kathryn DeBruin, including both the Externship and Core Skills programs, has equipped me with valuable insights and techniques for fostering emotional connections and healing. My involvement with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) further enhances my expertise in this area. Additionally, my training in Lifespan Integration at Level 4 with Carrie Cochran has provided me with unique approaches to addressing psychological issues across different stages of life. These experiences and trainings contribute to my holistic approach in therapy, allowing me to offer compassionate, effective guidance to my clients.

I work with teens, Individuals and couples.

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Teresa Eggleston, MA, LMFTA

Counselor

$150/session

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Sarah Richards, LMHCA

Counselor

$150/session

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Sarah Richards, LMHCA

Counselor

$150/session

You often feel unsure of yourself, grappling with a shaky sense of identity and low self-confidence. This internal struggle makes it difficult for you to form deep, meaningful connections in your relationships, leaving you feeling isolated and misunderstood.

As a couple, you and your partner are seeking to deepen your bond. You’re both committed to each other but feel there’s room to grow in understanding and connecting on a more profound level. You’re looking for ways to strengthen your relationship, seeking a deeper emotional connection and improved communication to enhance your partnership.

As your counselor, I will work with you to build a stronger sense of self and boost your self-confidence. We’ll explore the roots of your identity struggles and address the factors contributing to your feelings of disconnection in relationships. Through our sessions, I’ll help you develop strategies to establish deeper connections with others and strengthen your sense of belonging and self-worth.

For couples, I’ll facilitate a safe space for open and honest communication. We’ll delve into understanding each other’s perspectives, needs, and emotions. I’ll guide you both in developing effective communication skills and emotional understanding, aiming to deepen your bond and enhance the overall health and satisfaction of your relationship. Together, we’ll work towards building a stronger, more resilient partnership.

I earned my Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Counseling from Gonzaga University. Along with my counseling roles at North Central High School, Catholic Charities, and CAPA, I have directly applied my expertise by co-facilitating a year-long group for women grappling with their husbands’ unwanted pornography use. This experience has enriched my counseling practice, particularly in understanding complex relationship dynamics. My approach is actively shaped by my training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I have completed the Externship in EFT and am actively pursuing the Core Skills training, continually deepening my proficiency in this specialized area.

I am a good fit for teens, adults, and couples dealing with a range of issues, from standard challenges like attachment injuries, relational conflict, and disconnection from self, to more specialized areas. My expertise includes addressing betrayal trauma, managing the impacts of unwanted pornography use, and navigating shame in sexuality. I am also skilled in helping clients create secure attachments, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships. My diverse experience and training equip me to support a variety of needs effectively.

Mindy Martin, BA, Masters Candidate

Counselor

$75/session

You aim high and work tirelessly towards excellence, but often feel as though you’re just missing the mark, leading to stress and a sense of being overwhelmed. Deep inside, you’re on a quest to strengthen yourself, to find a purpose and meaning in your life that truly resonates with you. If you’re in a relationship, there’s a strong desire within you to deepen that bond, to build a connection that’s both enriching and affirming for both of you. You’re at a pivotal point, ready to turn these feelings of falling short into a positive journey of self-discovery, growth, and meaningful connections.

I can guide you through transforming these feelings of inadequacy into a journey of self-discovery and growth. For individuals, I’ll help you explore and find the purpose and meaning in your life, turning your stress and overwhelm into strength and resilience. If you’re part of a couple, we’ll work together to deepen your connection, fostering a relationship where both partners feel heard, valued, and aligned in their goals. My approach is rooted in empathy, understanding, and a commitment to helping you build a fulfilling life and relationship.

I’m a graduate student at Gonzaga University’s Marriage and Family Counseling Masters of Art program. In addition to my graduate studies I am receiving advanced training in Emotionally Focused Individual and Couples Therapy.  I receive weekly supervision by my university professors and direct supervision by site supervisor and senior therapist, Emily Seppi, MA, LMFT.

Through my diverse educational and professional journey, I have gained a rich tapestry of knowledge and skills. Studying psychology and family studies provided me with a deep understanding of human behavior and the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. My experience in medical massage therapy allowed me to appreciate the intricate connection between physical and mental well-being. As a certified life coach, I learned the art of guiding individuals towards achieving their personal and professional goals. Additionally, as a Reiki master teacher, I’ve embraced the holistic approach to healing, understanding the importance of balancing energy for overall health and wellness. Each of these experiences has contributed to my comprehensive approach to therapy and personal growth.

I am well-suited for single adults and couples who are life-long learners, eager for personal growth and deeper understanding in their lives and relationships. My clients are individuals and partners committed to self-improvement and enriching their connections with others. They value insight and transformation on their continuous journey of self-discovery and relationship building.

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Lexi Oellrich, BA, Masters Candidate

Counselor

$75/session

“To walk in nature is to witness a thousand miracles.”

– Mary Davis

Lexi Oellrich, BA, Masters Candidate

Counselor

$75/session

You’re certainly not alone in facing life’s challenges. It’s perfectly natural to long for deeper connections, to sometimes struggle with managing your emotions, and to have a strong desire for positive change in your life. These experiences are shared by many, and it’s a sign of strength and self-care to seek support in navigating them. Remember, seeking counseling is a courageous step towards understanding and growth, and it’s a journey you don’t have to undertake alone.

I help you navigate through life’s challenges with a unique blend of creativity, compassion, and commitment. My approach involves innovative techniques that cater to your individual needs, helping you find new perspectives and solutions. With compassion at the heart of our sessions, I ensure a safe and empathetic space for you to express and explore your emotions. My commitment to your journey means I am dedicated to supporting you every step of the way, helping you achieve the change and growth you seek.

I’m a graduate student at Gonzaga University’s Marriage and Family Counseling Masters of Art program. In addition to my graduate studies I am receiving advanced training in Emotionally Focused Individual and Couples Therapy.  I receive weekly supervision by my university professors and direct supervision by site supervisor and senior therapist, Emily Seppi, MA, LMFT.

My work over 3 years with young adults experiencing homelessness has deeply ingrained in me the value of empathy and resilience. Before this, I spent over five years actively engaging with children, teenagers, and college students in classrooms and small group settings, where I honed my skills in adaptability, patience, and active listening, essential for supporting growth and learning in various age groups.

I am a good fit for couples, families, individuals, and children starting from the age of 6, with my diverse experience and skill set uniquely positioning me to meet the varied needs of these different groups effectively.

Briane Souki, BS, Masters Candidate

Counselor

$75/session

You’re overwhelmed, feeling the heavy weight of life’s challenges. Exhausted and confused, you know you need counseling but don’t know where to start. Amidst the chaos, you’re searching for a way to lighten your load.

I empower you by imparting the knowledge and skills you need to tackle life’s challenges. As your mental health therapist, I guide you in understanding and managing your emotions and behaviors. We collaborate to devise strategies for overcoming obstacles and setting achievable goals. I provide you with effective coping mechanisms and problem-solving techniques, fostering resilience and self-awareness. Together, we transform challenges into growth opportunities, strengthening your confidence and self-reliance.

I find great fulfillment in working with individuals and couples who are navigating through life’s challenges, including traumas, struggles, and anxiety. Helping you overcome these hurdles, whether they’re personal or within relationships, is a journey I am passionate about. Your resilience and growth in facing these issues inspire me, and I’m committed to supporting you every step of the way.

As a graduate student in Gonzaga University’s Clinical Mental Health Counseling Masters of Art program, I am not only acquiring academic knowledge but also gaining practical skills. My advanced training in Emotionally Focused Individual and Couples Therapy, supplemented by weekly supervision from university professors and the experienced guidance of my site supervisor and senior therapist, Emily Seppi, MA, LMFT, shape my counseling approach. 

My previous role as a student advocate at the University of Northern Colorado’s Assault Survivor’s Advocacy Program taught me the nuances of providing empathetic support to individuals in crisis. My engagement with UNC’s Asian Pacific American Student Services Center and Cesar Chavez Cultural Center was pivotal in understanding and addressing the unique challenges faced by college students from diverse cultural backgrounds. My Hawaiian upbringing, immersed in the warmth of the sun and the serenity of the ocean, has ingrained in me a profound sense of calm and balance, which I bring to my counseling practice.

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Briane Souki, BS, Masters Candidate

Counselor

$75/session

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Anna Seppa, BA, Masters Candidate

Counselor

$75/session

You’re facing a tide of overwhelming emotions, making each day a challenge to navigate. Whether it’s in your personal life or in your relationships, these intense feelings are creating hurdles that seem hard to overcome. You’re seeking ways to manage these emotions and find a sense of balance. This journey of overcoming life’s challenges, both as an individual and within your relationships, is a path you’re ready to embark on with hope and resilience.

I’m here to help you navigate through these overwhelming emotions and the challenges they bring to your life and relationships. Together, we’ll explore strategies to manage and understand these feelings, finding a path towards balance and well-being. As your therapist, I’ll support you in developing the tools you need to face life’s hurdles with resilience and hope, whether you’re dealing with these issues individually or within your relationships. My approach is centered on guiding you towards a more manageable and fulfilling life journey.

I’m a graduate student at Gonzaga University’s Marriage and Family Counseling Masters of Art program. In addition to my graduate studies I am receiving advanced training in Emotionally Focused Individual and Couples Therapy.  I receive weekly supervision by my university professors and direct supervision by site supervisor and senior therapist, Emily Seppi, MA, LMFT.

Before returning to Spokane, I spent two years at Interlochen Arts Academy in Michigan, working with teenagers and guiding them to excel not just as artists but also as individuals. Though my professional experience is primarily with kids, I have a special affinity for working with older adults, influenced by my upbringing by baby-boomer generation parents. Living with Type 1 diabetes my entire life has given me a deep understanding of how chronic illness can affect both individual mental health and the overall well-being of a family.

I am a good fit for a wide range of clients, including couples, families, individuals, and children starting at age 6, as well as LGBTQ+ couples and individuals, and older adults.

As well as a counselor, Anna is a professional cellist and performs with the Coeur d’Alene Symphony and the indie-rock band The Bed Heads. She is also a cello instructor with the Spokane Youth Symphony.

You don't have to do this alone