Why Kids Get Anxious About Going Back to School—And How to Help

As summer winds down, it’s time to think about getting your kids ready to head back to school. Maybe you’ve already started gathering supplies, picking out that first-day outfit, and talking about what to expect this year.

While back-to-school time is exciting, it can also be nerve-wracking for some kids. Those nerves and worries can cause anxiety, no matter what grade they’re heading into.

It’s important to validate those feelings so you can help your child work through them. First, you have to understand why kids get anxious about going back to school. Let’s dive deeper into some of the common causes and what you can do to help.

Separation and Social Pressures

Some kids have a hard time being away from home and their parents. This can be especially true if you’ve spent most of the summer in close proximity to your child. Routines are very important for kids, and when they’ve become used to spending every day with you, doing something new and different can feel uncertain and scary, even if they’ve done it before.

They might also feel comfortable and safe at home, while knowing they have to deal with social pressures when they get back to school. Kids have a lot on their plates as they navigate the average school day. They want to fit in and make friends while avoiding things that could cause negative attention or lead to bullying. As they worry about those things, it can create even more anxiety about having to be away from home.

Academic Pressures

As kids get older, they might feel anxious about academics and how their grades could impact their future.

Everyone learns differently. Some children are better readers. Some excel in math or science. Whatever the case, these differences can sometimes cause anxiety. They might worry about new teachers, coursework, or not being able to keep up.

If your child is in high school, they might also worry about getting into a good college or whether their grades will impact the type of career they’ll be able to have.

Changes in Routine

We touched on earlier the importance of routine for children. Even if they’re ready to head back, the change in routine from summer can be jarring at first.

Many kids have more freedom in their routine throughout the summer. While the changes might not seem like a big deal to you, adjusting to a more structured routine can be difficult and make your child feel uncertain.

What Can You Do?

Thankfully, there are plenty of things you can do to help ease your child’s anxiety about going back to school. Starting now, establish a healthy routine to get them used to the change. Set specific bedtimes and have them wake up early.

If they’re nervous about a new classroom, teacher, or simply aren’t sure what to expect, consider going to the school before it starts. Have them meet with their teacher and talk to them about what the year ahead might hold.

Most importantly, foster a home environment that thrives on open communication. Make sure your child knows their feelings are valid and that you are there to listen and guide them as much as possible.

If you feel like extra help is needed, consider child therapy. A therapist can further help your child understand what they’re feeling and where the anxiety is coming from. They can teach healthy and effective strategies for coping, so your child will be able to manage their mental health with your love and support at home.

Some nerves about going back to school are normal. However, if your child is showing signs of anxiety about going back, it’s not something to take lightly. Talk to them, do what you can to encourage healthy ways of coping, and don’t hesitate to reach out for professional help if needed. Contact us today for a consultation.